Being a Foster Parent

There are few kinder acts than opening your home to a child in need of one. Foster parenting can be a blessing to both child and parent, but it's not a decision to be made lightly. It requires thoughtful research and preparation.

By definition, foster parents take in minor children who for one reason or another are unable to live with one or both of their biological parents. Children in foster care may live with another relative or with those they're not related to. During this time, their biological parents are offered help and parenting training to prove whether they are able to safely care for their children. Officials stress that the main goal of foster care is a child's reunification with one or both of his or her biological parents. However, in many circumstances this isn't possible, so children may be available for adoption.

Considerations Before Foster Care

Before beginning the process of securing a foster parent license, you may want to evaluate your current situation. Do you already have children in your home? If so, are they at an age that would allow you to spend quality time with a new addition while also making time for them? Do you have room in your home for another person? Are you mentally prepared for the challenge of caring for a child who may be going through extreme emotional stress? Will you be able to part with this child should he or she be able to return to his or her biological parents? Sitting down and answering these types of questions can help you determine if foster parenting is the right option for you and your family.

Requirements for Beginning the Process

Adults interested in becoming a foster parent will be required to go through several steps, which are standard in all states. They can include: 1. Submitting to a background check and finger printing 2. A home inspection 3. Completing a series of parenting classes, including first aid 4. Securing medical clearances for all adults and children in the home. Individual states will require a variety of additional steps to ensure your competence and dedication to taking on a foster child.

Financial Implications of Foster Parenting

The addition of another member to your household will likely mean some added expenses. Foster parents will be reimbursed for some costs via a monthly stipend check. In many instances, however, this may cover only a fraction of the expenses you really incur, as many parents spend well beyond the monthly allotment from their state foster parent agency. This underscores the importance of assessing your financial situation prior to beginning the foster parent application process.

Emotional Implications of Foster Parenting

It's important to understand that the child coming into your home has likely been through an enormous amount of emotional stress. He has been removed from his biological family possibly because of an abusive or neglectful situation. This may be a fragile child whose hurt may manifest itself in myriad ways, including anger, violence, depression and sadness. It's important to recognize that this child will need stability, patience and kindness. There's always the distinct possibility that the child will return to his or her biological family. This may worry and sadden you. The child may become part of your family, and saying goodbye can be difficult. Acknowledging and accepting this fact going into the process can help you celebrate the child's return to his or her biological family.

Seeking Support

It's likely that the agency through which the child was placed with you offers some type of support services. You'll be assigned a case worker who can help provide insight into the child's past and who can connect you with other foster parents in your area. Sharing experiences with others going through the same thing can be helpful in preparing you for what to expect and any challenges you may face. Consult your local foster care agency for more information on becoming a foster parent.