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Dating as a Single Parent

One way to start is to ask yourself some questions, such as How can I find who and what I'm looking for? What is important to me in life? How do I balance work and my personal life? By taking an assessment of your needs and desires, you can begin to focus your priorities around those qualities you hope to find in another person whose interests are compatible with yours.
It's hard enough to accommodate your children's social lives, let alone your own. If you're single, the thought of jumping back into the dating pool can be time consuming and daunting, but it doesn't have to be. Keeping a positive attitude and focusing on the opportunities that surround you can give you a head start in the right direction.

Get Out Of The House

If you're not already involved in a group activity, such as a tennis club or book group, why not join one? Even if you are already active, trying something new might be just the ticket. Maybe the activity is a little out of your comfort zone--think salsa dancing or group guitar lessons--but shedding old habits can be a wonderful way to meet new people and perhaps even discover a side of yourself that has lain dormant all these years.

Try Online Resources

Of course, social media websites help you connect with friends, including those with whom you've lost touch. An idea to consider is organizing a mini-reunion. You never know who may pop out of the woodwork. Think about checking out the numerous single parent networks online where you can join forums to discuss issues other single parents are facing. Not only might these outlets provide helpful information, they might also help you get to know other like-minded people.

Don't Think Too Much

Try not to overanalyze every move you make. Creating time for yourself to go out and meet other singles is an important activity to try to make time for, without obsessing over whether this is the right "one." Instead, consider keeping the focus on building friendships.

When To Introduce the Children

If one of these friendships develops into something more serious, taking your time in introducing this new person to your children is perfectly fine if that is what you choose to do. By slowly incorporating this person into your family time, he or she can build relationships with your children in their own way, and your children won't have to feel like their time with you is being jeopardized.

Have Fun

The key is to try stepping out, having fun, and involving your children only when and if the time seems right for you. You will attract those of a like mind and prove that single parents can have their cake and eat it too.